I see this term used a lot and people state that they are fine with homosexuality, as long as it is not "shoved in their face". What I want to know is what constitutes "shoving it in your face".
If I walk down the street holding my wife's hand, is that shoving it in your face? Should I not be allowed to display affection except when I'm in the confines of my home or some "gay safe house". I mean I don't do public display's of affection that often (not because I'm gay, but because I'm private), but if I choose to, shouldn't I be able to?
To me shoving it in your face, would be coming up to you, telling you how you should denounce your heterosexuality and become gay, because my gay bible says you should. And how you chose to be heterosexual and how vile you are. And when you refuse, I march and go to the Capitol to make sure you have no rights to be heterosexual. Sound familiar??
That's shoving it in your face!
What do you perceive to be "shoving homosexuality in your face"?
You are right and I give you credit, I wish I could walk down the street holding my boyfriend's hand. The phrase "I'm fine with it, as long as it stays in the bedroom" is absurd. Look at tv, movies, listen to songs, check advertisements... would that not be heterosexuality being flaunted in our faces? I mean is not the dream to be married, have 2.5 kids, dog, cat, and a house with a white picket fence... why can't the married couple be two women or two men? I really feel that people who are just ignorant against us really just don't know how we feel. It's horrible to not be able to hold your boyfriend's hand, because you feel you'll get beat up. It's horrible that you have to make sure you "act straight" so that when you are around straight guys they don't think you want them and then come after you. Society makes it so hard for us to be us, so the people who are just hypocrites like that really need to open their eyes! It's MUCH harder in this world to be homosexual, because of the second class treatment we receive.
Personally I HATE seeing a straight couple making out in a public place, but I don't go over to them, and say, "yeah get a room, I don't need your heterosexuality thrown in my face!" Just because I'm not heterosexual doesn't mean I don't think they should have rights, so why do people feel we don't deserve rights? :)
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Reply:Shoving it in my face... I think I would count that as shoving your homosexuality in my face.
I might also consider it "shoved in my face" if you came up to me specifically and made-out/groped/sexually displayed each other. (But I'd punch any douche who did that, regardless of who they did it with.) I might also think you were "shoving it in my face" if you were flouncing about saying, "I'm gay and I'm damn proud! I'm a leeeesbiiiiaaan! I'm gaaaaaay!" (Again, I'd be pissed at any douche who ran around flouncing their sexuality regardless of what sexuality it was.)
If I was with a boyfriend or gentleman friend etc. and you said something about our being anti-gay or something else negative regarding our apparent heterosexuality I might consider that "shoving homosexuality in my face." (Equivalent for all, still.)
Reply:It would be doing more in front of me or to me than the average heterosexual would do.
Most heterosexuals don't go around telling me they are hetero, or make big displays of it, or talk to me about their sexual orientation without my asking, or paw each other obsessively in public, or act like I have to accept their behaviour.
BTW Some of the things you mention are heterosexuals reacting to the actions of gays, and not them simply doing something first. So if they were never given something to react to originally, then they would never have displayed the actions that they did.
Reply:I agree... however if Kate Beckinsale wants to shove anything in my face I won't complain. GRIN
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Reply:Public display of affection, but not because the couples love each other, but for the sole purpose of making everyone within site watch this display.
Reply:You make such a wonderful point... when I walk down the street holding my fiances hand I see the way some people look but I guess I just dont care. I mean we're a loving couple just as any other. :-) The only thing I hate is when people ask why I moved to NJ, I saw to be with my fiance, and they say "Aww how nice when are you and HIM getting married?" I have to turn around and say "Thank you... me and HER havent set a date yet." Sometimes the situation gets awkward such as an job interview, new work environment etc. You never know how someone will take it... Thank God the job I am currently at is accepting. I've been here for 6 months (almost since I moved to NJ) and I have pictures all around my cubicle of my fiance %26amp; I, as well as my family. I can talk to them about things that occur and its almost like they are a second family. :-)
I dont see how if homosexuals and heterosexuals do the same exact thing then we are ridiculed and say we are shoving it into people's faces, but the action isnt even recognized if its done by a heterosexual couple. Its not fair, but we have to deal with it until the change is made.
Also I think some people feel that Gay Parades/Festivals are shoving it there face, but they cant use that as an excuse because they dont attend it if they dont support homosexuals so how is that shoving it in there face?
You make such a wonderful point!!!! Thanx for writing this!!! *starred*
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Reply:For me I just don't want to walk down the street and see two people dry humping on the sidewalk. Gay or straight it doesn't matter. lol and I have never met anyone who has tried to turn anyone "gay" but if they did it's the same principle about religion, Do what you want but don't try to change me! I have no problem with anyone loving whoever they want because I think love is love no matter skin color or sex, height ,weight whatever....
Reply:I agree with you 100% and I'm not gay..
I have a hard time cuz I date outside my race..
Everyone should mind their own DAYUM business!!
Reply:I am heterosexual.
I have been married for 50 years.
We have never displayed our affection publicly.
It's distasteful no matter who it is.
Holding some ones hand has nothing to do with displaying affection.
We use discretion in public.
So should everyone else.
Reply:I have to agree with you. I don't hold my wife's hand anywhere that I don't know is gay friendly. i don't display affection in public very often.
I certainly don't go up to complete strangers and corner them and denounce them for being who they are. they are strangers. their private life is their business.
The haters don't know us. when they come up in our faces waving bibles, denouncing us, calling us sinners and telling us we're going to hell...THEY are shoving THEIR hate in OUR faces! they are the sinners...they are they hypocrites. they shove their hate agendas in everyones face every day. if we even acknowledge being gay or lesbian, then we are "shoving it in their face?" please...
I'm very laid back and non-confrontational.
Reply:Hang on there, let me think. Hmmmm, let's see, I've had the conservatives try to shove prayer in school in my face. I've had the bright eyed religious crowd shove countless stories of how they were saved and why I'm not in my face, I've had more people than I can count shove their opinion that homosexuality is a sin and I should discontinue my acquaintance with homosexuals in my face, and in one case I had a sidewalk shoved in my face by an anti gay bigot, but....nope, can't help you with your question. I've never had homosexuality shoved in my face so I really couldn't tell you what it meant.
Reply:I completely agree with you. I'm bi, and was treated so much differently with boyfriends than I am with my wife. It's really upsetting. Hell, we've been called out for kissing on our own *stoop*!
Reply:You make a very good point, but I think SOME of the people who dislike "shoving homosexuality in my face" are talking about Pride. Granted, its only once a year, but it is a moment in time when Gays and Lesbians and indeed the whole LGT community can say "Here I am. See me today."
Beyond that, its an opinion shared by people who would prefer we all go silently into our old closets and never mention "the love that dares not speak its name" again.
Reply:I don't know but I've never had a problem with gay people "shoving" anything in my face, I actually like it ;)
Reply:I think 'Daffyd' from Little Britain is a prime example of 'shoving it in your face', lol - he still cracks me up, though
Reply:Gay Pride to me is a huge ''shoving in the face'', some aspects of it are totally unnecessary.
I would say most heterosexuals refer to THAT and public affection displays (holding hands, kissing, cuddling, etc.) or the fact that they'll see gay couples getting married on TV, blablabla.
We'll all agree, those people saying they have no problem with homosexuality as long as it's not being ''shoved in their face'' DO have a problem with homosexuality, but just don't want to be perceived as being homophobic. It's frankly a coward answer. Although I will say it again, some aspects of gay pride are not helping our cause.
Reply:People who use the phrase "don't shove it in my face", are just trying to find a way to say they still don't want to see homosexuality. They are wrong to say they aren't bigots if they won't allow you to display public affection, or have movies and book, and TV shows available to any culture/or sexual preference.
Reply:With their gay pride parades, gay adoption, and saying that they actually have rights. All that is sin and is forcing more sin on God fearing people.
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